Guys, I’m not actually going to drop my baby off on a doorstep. As my wife can attest, I frequently use a rhetorical device called “hyperbole” to communicate my feelings. The more outrageous the claim, the less seriously it should be taken.
The only serious part of my last post was: I do, totally and completely, feel like I am failing as a parent. Just when I think I understand her, she throws up some new thing and I just say, “Why are you doing this!?” As long as I’ve known him, The Boy has never been this way. What you see is what you get with him.
The comments on this Facebook post revolved around shared parenting struggles, support, and humor. Here’s a summary:
1. **Personal Experiences**: Contributors like Sara and Marcus shared their unique challenges, such as managing attention between multiple children or dealing with difficult baby phases (e.g., napping, spitting up). Others, like Nichole and Kim, talked about embracing differences in children and enduring tough early months.
2. **Humor & Venting**: Several comments inject humor, like Jenda and Justin joking about their challenging child, and Penny lightheartedly reminding parents to be mindful of future account hacks by their children.
3. **Encouragement**: Comments from Teri and others reassure William that the struggles are universal and temporary, with better days ahead. Many agree that love, patience, and adaptability are key.
Overall, it’s a mix of advice, commiseration, and laughter, showing the shared camaraderie among parents.
2018 – 11:32am Carrie Hawkins Poliksa
Welcome to parenting, no one knows what they’re doing and those that act like they do are lying to themselves and everyone else! Just love her, you are enough! 😘
Misty Beard 2018 – 12:07
Exactly what Carrie said! I was going to post the same thing! Nobody knows what they are doing, you have to just wing it! And once you get in a groove and think you have I figured out, you’ll get a curve ball. Just go with the flow and know you are doing the very best you can. ALL parents have felt like they are failing at some point, if they haven’t I’m sure they are lying! My Grandma had had a difficult one, and she would tell me she used to say to herself, “I wouldn’t trade this child for a million dollars, but I wouldn’t pay 2 cents for another!” Still makes me laugh to this day!
Nichole Bulmer 2018 12-24.pm
Anyone that thinks you were serious probably doesn’t actually have kids or is a drama artist. Even the best of parents have dark thoughts sometimes because it helps vent things in a way that isn’t harmful to anyone as long as you aren’t saying it to the kid, though as a baby you are probably safe there too. You just met this tiny person less than a year ago, you are still getting to know each other and even when you do things will change, people change. The hardest thing I have seen and dealt with is getting over the realization that just because they are spawned from you doesn’t guarantee they will like you, be like you, like anything you like etc. My daughter is 4 now, she is so freaking girly I can’t even breathe sometimes, she loves baby dolls and pink stuff, and frilly dresses. She talks to EVERYONE. EVERY FUCKING ONE. I am a tomboy gamer tech nerd introvert, my husband is most of those things too. Don’t hold any expectations, just take things as they come.
Kim Fauth Spratt 2018 12-33pm
The second child always throws you for a loop. Griffin screamed for the first six months. Then he was in and out of doctors for many different issues between asthma, febrile seizures, tonsils and adenoids and everything in between. And then one day he was healthy. Hang in there.
Justin Cole 2018 1:17pm
You know what my life is like. We’ve had over 20 kids in and out of our house. We’re trained in how to handle the kids no one else wants… The ones with so much trauma, they can barely function in society. And, we’re good at it. But, my own offspring confounds me on a daily basis. Some days I don’t know what to do and feel like I’m failing her.
I just trust that with enough love, emotional support, and meeting her needs… She’ll thrive and prosper as her own unique person. Maybe I should start a savings fund for lots of therapy too.