{"id":1901,"date":"2026-02-08T12:08:00","date_gmt":"2026-02-08T17:08:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/home.woodchuckhunters.com\/blog\/?p=1901"},"modified":"2026-07-18T15:56:44","modified_gmt":"2026-07-18T19:56:44","slug":"mom-made-daughter-cry-over-bangs-and-i-dont-know-how-to-deal-with-it","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/home.woodchuckhunters.com\/blog\/2026\/02\/08\/mom-made-daughter-cry-over-bangs-and-i-dont-know-how-to-deal-with-it\/","title":{"rendered":"Mom made daughter cry over bangs and I don\u2019t know how to deal with it"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\"><em>Posted to r\/Parenting<\/em><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">My 8yo daughter wanted bangs (has wanted bangs for at least a year) and last night daughter decided to try it herself. I was up first this morning and noticed it. There were a few stray hairs and it was a little uneven, but I thought daughter did okay for a self-trim. Besides that, I honestly don\u2019t care because she\u2019s a kid and kids can have goofy hair; no one really cares. I told Daughter that it looked better than I thought it would and that she could ask grandma to trim it up when we see them next time but suggested she not mention it to mom since it would make mom mad.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Sure enough, mom noticed and immediately flipped out saying things like, \u201cOH MY GOD YOU CUT YOUR HAIR!?\u201d Now, instead of daughter feeling proud and enjoying a new style, she\u2019s in tears and feeling ashamed of doing something different to her body.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">Mom seems to be most upset that we\u2019ve told daughter no every time it\u2019s been brought up and that daughter has now broken the rules we established. I would feel the same way if we were talking about tablet time or sneaking out. I\u2019ve never liked that we\u2019ve been setting rules about our kids bodily autonomy but I\u2019ve lost this argument every time it\u2019s come up.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"wp-block-paragraph\">I just need advice on why I\u2019m wrong and what I\u2019m not understanding about why this is such a huge freaking deal and why it\u2019s worth pushing the kid down into the mud.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Posted to r\/Parenting My 8yo daughter wanted bangs (has wanted bangs for at least a year) and last night daughter decided to try it herself. I was up first this morning and noticed it. There were a few stray hairs and it was a little uneven, but I thought daughter did okay for a self-trim. [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":2,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[15,18,32],"tags":[29],"class_list":["post-1901","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-friends-family","category-moods","category-parenting","tag-reddit"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/home.woodchuckhunters.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1901","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/home.woodchuckhunters.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/home.woodchuckhunters.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/home.woodchuckhunters.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/2"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/home.woodchuckhunters.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1901"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/home.woodchuckhunters.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1901\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1911,"href":"https:\/\/home.woodchuckhunters.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1901\/revisions\/1911"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/home.woodchuckhunters.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1901"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/home.woodchuckhunters.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1901"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/home.woodchuckhunters.com\/blog\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1901"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}