I think a big thing that i’ve been looking for in a woman has been the superficial look. My rationale has always been that an emotionally healthy woman will look fit and healthy on the outside. While this may be true, this thinking has led me to women who try very hard to conceal their true nature. Finally coming to this realization has helped to reframe one of my most limiting beliefs. Now, i’m finding that I have a strong desire to get to know ‘her’. I met one girl lately who’s really cute but lives in her own little world. Then there’s another girl who has a ton of skills, is independent, and i’m actually spending time to get to know her. She’s not as cute, but as I get more attracted to her personality, I seem to be finding new ways to be attracted to her physically. Has anyone seen Shallow Hal… I kinda feel like that. I always knew that I was superficial, but I guess i didn’t know how deep those feelings ran.